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Judith Roback's avatar

I confess to not actively having noticed instances of parental (or other closely-connected adults) illeism [and thank you for apprising me of the term!]. What I do notice is what here is known as “motherese” — a seemingly unconscious change of timbre, intonation, inflection, when talking to infants — even among the childless, and for some animal lovers, including the childless, to non-humans!

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Chris David's avatar

Fascinating. I've not ever thought much about illeism but my take is it creates both distance and more authority, even if it's the toddler shouting "Billy wants sweets!", or in the case of "Would you like Mummy to kiss it better", makes it clear to the receiver who is doing the caring. Great read.

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